How To Naturally Avoid The Flu
It’s flu season again, and lots of people are getting sick with the unpredictable change of weather. But don’t scramble for the pharmaceutical shelves just yet. Because there’s a natural way of addressing the flu and avoid getting a flu shot. And my returning guest, Cilla Whatcott is the best person to teach us how to recover from the flu naturally.
2012 Flu Vaccine Study
First of all, Cilla Whatcott reveals that getting a flu shot does not have excellent odds. But it’s going to help you. She cites a 2012 study by Cowling and Fang, who learned that when you get the flu shot, it produces antibodies for that particular strain of the flu. But on the other hand, it compromises your innate arm of immunity.
“So, your cell-mediated immunity becomes more vulnerable to all the other circulating viruses. While you may have current protection from the current flu, you are opening up your susceptibility to all the other viruses that are circulating,” Cilla Whatcott explains.
She adds, “All the flu report we hear on media is misleading. Flu-like viruses are out there, and they are not the flu. Getting sick and getting well is part of being healthy. It’s not ever getting sick. It’s essential to exercise our immune system.”
Effect Of Vaccines
As for other vaccines compromising the innate arm of the immune system, Cilla Whatcott says this is where dis-regulation takes place. When you emphasize one half of the immune system, it compromises the other side. Because ultimately, true real immunity is based on a balance.
“Vaccines are intended to create inflammation. But unfortunately, it’s indiscriminate. This inflammation takes place you see a dis-regulation of the immune system,” said Cilla Whatcott. “The immune system is designed to recognize a pathogen, raise an immune response, discharge, then resolution. As the system goes through those steps, true immunity is built.”
Furthermore, Cilla Whatcott explains that when you inject a child with eight diseases at one time, you are confusing the system. Because Nature doesn’t deliver eight diseases at once.
“You deliver eight diseases at once through a needle, inject it into the system instead of to the mucous membrane as Nature does, and add more stuff to inflame the immune system,” Cilla Whatcott said. “With that, the system is going to try to discharge things by raising its inflammatory response.”
Right Food Choices
We have always stressed in past episodes that food can be medicine. If we eat the right kind of foods, it heals and nourishes our body significantly.
Cilla Whatcott says that by having a whole food, organic diet, it’s a great way to get vitamin A. It’s in all the orange vegetables, sweet potatoes, yams, and carrots. Vitamin D is also a critical component of healing. Because these two vitamins can help your immune capabilities.
There are over-the-counter homeopathic products, and the one Cilla Whatcott recommends is Oscillococcinum. She says it works better once you start contracting the flu.
But Cilla Whatcott says there are also some other homeopathic remedies that you can use. Choosing a homeopathic remedy is based on specific symptoms. She says Oscillococcinum is broader, so you can take Oscillococcinum with any symptoms.
But you if have some gut virus, vomiting and have diarrhea, Cilla Whatcott recommends taking Arsenicum. For those who are unaware, Arsenicum is made from arsenic.
“Because if you took material arsenic, you would be vomiting and have diarrhea as well as all the other symptoms, like feeling chilly and anxious,” said Cilla Whatcott. “None of our homeopathic remedies have any molecule of material substance in them. They are completely energetic. Their frequency can’t do any harm.”
Aspirin, on the other hand, was newly discovered by 1918-1919. And it was a wonder drug. Because according to Cilla Whatcott, you could give the same aspirin to many people to reduce fever.
“You didn’t have to take a case. The predominant method of medicine that time in homeopathy in the early 1900s required taking the individual case,” said Cilla Whatcott.
When you reduce the fever for flu, it very quickly goes to the lungs. Spanish flu, in particular, goes to the lungs and people were dead in 24 hours. For allopathic medicine, the mortality rate was logged at 28%.
In contrary, the homeopathic patients did not have a lot of deaths because they weren’t reducing the fever. They were treating the symptoms of the flu, and it was very successful.
“The goal is not to eliminate every symptom. But rather the goal is to support the body to balance itself. Because that’s how we’re designed to find that balance. And it will, as long as you don’t start suppressing every symptom,” Cilla Whatcott said.
Cilla Whatcott reveals that there’s a double-blind placebo-controlled study out of Brazil for Influenzinum. In the study, Influenzinum was given to six hundred children under the age of five. They found that there were no injuries, no side effects, there was a success rate reducing symptoms. The frequency of catching the flu was also less.
“Influenzinum can be sold in many different ways and many different preparations. You can find it online from some places where it is typed by the actual year or season for that pill,” said Cilla Whatcott. “I like to use a combination of historical flu, bird flu, influenza A and B, plus something called Bacillinum. This combination is good every single year.”
She adds, “Nothing prevents the flu 100%. We are building your natural immunity so that you are more capable of resisting things.”
Homeoprophylaxis Vs. Homeopathic Remedy
Classical homeopathy is based on a person’s lifestyle and living environment. Cilla Whatcott says it waits until you are sick, and gathers all the data before determining anything.
“Homeoprophylaxis is given prior so that you familiarize the individual with the frequency of the disease and epidemic. And homeoprophylaxis is made from the specific pathogen that is causing that particular disease,” said Cilla Whatcott.
Homeoprophylaxis is not typically measured with double-blind placebo-controlled studies. It is in long-term studies where long-term health outcomes can be determined.
“This is called effectiveness instead of efficacy. Efficacy is about building antibodies. Effectiveness is about taking the long view and seeing what happens to this population over time,” Cilla Whatcott explains.
Feature Length Documentaries
To know more about real immunity, Cilla Whatcott has an amazing three-part video series which you can rent from her official website. The second one called Passage is already available for a 3-day rental at $9.99.
If you want to watch all three, the first one is called The Quest for Real Immunity. It covers the fear surrounding disease, reveals the relationship between humans and viruses, and provides insight into trusting your intuition.
Passage to Real Immunity tackles the safe and effective alternative to vaccines called homeoprophylaxis. This part is packed with interviews with doctors who use homeoprophylaxis including Dr. Isaac Golden, a leading researcher.
There are also interviews with parents talking about the wonders of homeopathy. Also watch out for the interview with Del Bigtree, an expert who speaks on listening to your intuition as a parent.
The third part, Choosing Real Immunity is slated to be released in 2019. And it will focus on a variety of tools to add to your immunity resources.
Effectivity of Homeoprophylaxis
Cilla Whatcott says no method is 100% effective. She said the original study was done over 15 years studying 3,000 children. It found that the HP kids had more robust immunity and better long-term health outcomes than even the organic eaters.
“A child going through homeoprophylaxis treatment depends on the susceptibility of the individual. Some who have greater susceptibility is probably because their ancestors had respiratory illnesses,” shares Cilla Whatcott.
She adds, “So when you take homeoprophylaxis, it satisfies a certain susceptibility. You become less susceptible to catching that particular disease. Your immune system knows how to mount an immune response and address it.”
Critical Vaccine Studies Book
Cilla Whatcott cited a great reference for vaccines. It’s called Critical Vaccine Studies by Neil Z. Miller. The book came out in 2016. The book shows studies pointing to the fact that benign childhood diseases like measles, chicken pox, and mumps, play a role in our long-term immunity. They help prevent chronic disease, tumors, and cancers.
“There are many benefits from natural disease. Natural disease is what governs herd immunity, not vaccines,” said Cilla Whatcott. “It’s when the natural disease comes through that we develop herd immunity because that gives us life-long immunity. The antibodies produced by the body does not last a lifetime that’s why they keep adding boosters to the schedule.”
Family Homeopathy Care Website
For those who want to sign-up for courses and look at other offerings, link to the Family Homeopathy Care Website. There is a free knowledge vault containing over a hundred documents and divided into chapters. Which you can download.
You can also sign up for classes where you can access anytime once you have an account. The course on nine remedies for the flu is worth checking out. Classes cost $12.99 and are usually in Powerpoint format.
Common Remedies for Influenza and Flu-like Symptoms
Cilla Whatcott says Gelsemium is for incredible weakness and fatigue, eyes half closed, and headaches. Generally speaking, homeopathy is dosed while you have the symptoms.
“You give three doses, half or an hour apart. And if there is an improvement, you wait and watch because your body will move in the direction of cure,” said Cilla Whatcott.
If there is no change whatsoever, Cilla Whatcott says it may be because you’re on the wrong remedy. Hence, you need to re-assess the case. Plus, if you fall asleep, that’s a great sign. Because the body heals when it’s sleeping.
“Stop taking the remedy when you are 70 to 80% better. If the symptoms change, you might have to change remedies,” advises Cilla Whatcott. “Don’t touch the pellets with your fingers. Tap them on the cap and pop into your mouth. Keep them away from high heat, microwave or strong-smelling things like essentials oils because those can stop the action of the remedies.”
Ultimately, Cilla Whatcott stresses that we have to take responsibility for our health. You figure it out. It’s not a knee-jerk reaction.
“That requires a learning curve which not everyone wants to do, but that is what lead me to where I am now. Medical school is not teaching some of the things that I see parents learning today on their own,” said Cilla Whatcott.
She also says that our body has that headache or symptom to balance things out. It’s an expression of the disease. When you take something pharmaceutical, you’re stopping that expression.
“When you take homeopathy, it’s just a frequency like music, prayer and radio signals. You are not physically manipulating the physiology of the body. You are simply providing a frequency to encourage the body to do what it knows how to do,” said Cilla Whatcott.
Road To Recovery
Cilla Whatcott says illness comes along in our lives with a message. So, respect the illness. Take the time you need and be good to yourself.
She also says that one good thing to use for recovery is cell salts. And there is a combination of all 12 cell salts called Bioplasma. Bioplasma is available via 1-800-homeopathy.com.
Ideally, it is best to take Bioplasma at the end of the flu. Take Bioplasma a couple of times a day for three to five days to reboot your system. Intake one cell salt at a time, then more effective if you target it at the actual need.
“My goal is to educate and empower parents to know they have choices. You’re the expert for your child. No one loves your child as you do,” said Cilla Whatcott. “Your intention is always for their good. There are no real mistakes. You’re always making choices based on what you know. So, the goal is to know all you can to make informed choices.”
Cilla Whatcott is a board-certified classical homeopath with a B.A. from Arizona State University, a diploma from the four-year professional program at Northwestern Academy of Homeopathy, and a Ph.D. in Homeopathy.
She is an instructor at Normandale Community College and the author of“There Is a Choice: Homeoprophylaxis,” and co-author of “The Solution – Homeoprophylaxis.”
Whatcott is also the executive director of Worldwide Choice. She likewise offers individualized homeoprophylaxis programs for adults and children.
Whatcott has been a guest lecturer in France, Scotland, Ireland, Indonesia, the USA, and Canada, and featured in episode 7 of The Truth about Vaccines. She has organized and directed international conferences in 2015 and 2016 about homeoprophylaxis.
Whatcott also has published articles in several periodicals and magazines. She likewise has a certification as a CEASE therapist for reversing vaccine injury.
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Recommended Readings by Dr. Cilla Whatcott
Dissolving Illusions – Suzanne Humphries (Vaccines)
Miller’s Review of Critical Vaccine Studies – Neil Miller (Vaccines)
Impossible Cure – Amy Lansky (Homeopathy)
The Complete Homeopathy Handbook – Miranda Castro (Homeopathy)
Not many people are familiar with nutritional endocrinology. And yet it’s one of the essential things to know with regards to our health. Because with nutritional endocrinology, we learn how our body works. To enlighten us on how to recharge, gain energy, balance hormones, and lower stress, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo expounds on the components of nutritional endocrinology in this episode.
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo describes herself as a hyper-achiever during her 20s. As a result, her health started falling apart. Going to a doctor, she was prescribed to take valium to take care of her constant headaches.
Working hard after college also had its consequences. Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo had to deal with chronic sinusitis and brain fog apart from her constant headaches. Initially, she didn’t know she had fatigue because she didn’t feel tired. It’s because she was drinking a lot of black tea and diet coke, which were both high in caffeine.
Finding A Cure
Trying to find a cure for her health issues, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo decided to get herself tested for ulcers. She went to a gastroenterologist who told her she didn’t have an ulcer. But the doctor also told Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo that because she had no idea what was wrong with her, the doctor advised Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo to keep taking the medication meant for ulcers.
That made Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo think. Why would she have to take medication for a condition she didn’t have. Hence, she started questioning a lot of other things. One of them was diet.
So, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo asked her doctor if her condition had to do anything with her diet. Her doctor disagreed. But Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo didn’t listen and proceeded to figure out how to change her food choices lifestyle. In the end, she did get well.
Her heath obstacles fueled Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo’s desire to help others. She wanted to be the person who helps people get well and not take years to do so. Losing her parents and sister to illness strengthened Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo’s goal to carve a meaningful career path.
Pursuing further knowledge, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo earned her Doctor of Chiropractic degree and Masters in Nutrition. Shortly after, she started her practice. Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo began to a lucrative career in 1996 and was one of the few women professionals in the industry at that time.
Realizing the food played a big part in nutritional endocrinology, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo started to eat more vegetables. She began eating salads and fresh fruits.
Eventually, she also gave up milk. Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo also started eating whole wheat bread but then switched to whole grains. She also decreased her alcohol intake.
Wanting to improve her health and learn more things, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo found a doctor in New Jersey who worked at a medical nutrition center. That doctor found that Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo had candida overgrowth.
Because of the discovery, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo was advised to make significant efforts to take out sugar and alcohol from her diet. As a result, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo started to feel better after that doctor suggested fasting.
Fasting changed Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo’s life. Ideally, proper fasting takes 28 days. Either way, before you do fasting, it’s best to get guidance from a trained professional.
“Fasting depends on the person. If you are stressed, it produces more cortisol, increases blood pressure and blood sugar,” explains Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo. “Do not over-exercise. Do a periodic short fast because cortisol prefers breaking down muscle.”
Ideally, we are supposed to do fasting for 12 hours overnight. Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo says the people who advocate eating every two to three hours to keep a nice steady blood sugar are clueless. Because they don’t know the physiology and biochemistry of how the body works.
“It’s the worst thing to do if you want to maintain a healthy weight. Because insulin suppresses growth hormones. It suppresses the ability to burn fat,” Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo explains. “And that’s not a good thing. So, exercise regularly. Hunger also stimulates growth hormones. You don’t have to satisfy hunger as soon as it hits.”
Regulating Food Intake
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo says it is dangerous to have constant access to food. It puts you in an insulin state all day long. She advises not to stretch hunger for hours because it would turn into a stress response.
“Typically, if you get hungry and you can comfortably go three hours without eating, and start to lose it, start first for 15 minutes and gradually build up by trying to adapt,” said Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo. “The more you choose the way you’re eating, get rid of the processed sugary foods that cause the blood sugar roller coaster ride. Eat good healthy fats, and the body will eventually adapt beautifully.”
Foundational Lifestyle Habits
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo says there are foundational lifestyle habits that everybody needs to adapt and get in balance. She calls them the body freedom foundation. Because when we have these foundational lifestyle habits under control, you get the ultimate freedom in your life.
First and foremost, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo advises that we have to make it fun. How much fun are you having? Most people aren’t. Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo says most people who are sick are higher achievers, and they feel that fun is not a good thing.
Next is restful sleep and not sleep with the tv on. She says waking up in the middle of the night is a sign that you have low blood sugar and stress.
“It’s amazing how many people fall asleep with the tv on, eat right before bed, do real stress activities and expect to get a good night’s sleep. Having a clean environment is also an important factor to consider when it comes to destressing your body,” said Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo.
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo also stresses the importance of diet. It’s not just about eating a healthy diet or eating less and exercising more. There’s more to it than that. Think about how to put the best diet in place for yourself.
Next is an outlet. Think about what your outlet is and if you have an optimistic outlook. Do you have a goal that you are working towards to? Is there reasoning why you want to change what you want to do?
Finally, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo mentioned mindfulness. Take it one at a time. Because in most people, fasting blood sugar is the last thing to change. A lot of that is something happening overnight. Something stressful is raising the cortisol levels. We can confirm it by doing a cortisol test or saliva test, a 24-hour urine test to figure out if what you are feeling is stress-related.
Sometimes, health issues are related to parasites. Parasites are active in laying their eggs overnight. If that happens, it keeps people awake. There is no restful sleep, and the sugar is high. Another indicator is getting up several times a night to go to the bathroom. That can contribute to high blood sugar.
“The things that create energy are mitochondria. Mitochondria are in every cell in the body. And they take sugar and oxygen, come up with ATP, which is the energy currency of the cells,” Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo explains.
She adds, “When something is wrong in that mitochondria, we’re not going to create much energy. We don’t have enough of the nutrients. It can take a while to replenish nutrient deficiency. And they might not have the right amino acids which explain protein malabsorption.”
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo also reveals that the adrenals could be stressed out from years of stressful life. Plus, the thyroid is the thermostat for every cell. It dictates how much we are going to burn oxygen to make energy. So looking at thyroid issues is also essential.
“Shallow breathing could also be creating a problem. They are not getting full oxygenation to their tissue. That could be creating the deficiencies of any of the nutrients. If someone has switched their diet, they have not replenished the nutrients that got depleted from a previous diet.”
That’s why Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo trains nutritional endocrinology practitioners and other health professionals to look at the big picture. Bottom line, stress and all kinds of trauma are significant contributing factors to deteriorating health. It’s about how we look at it, how to unpack and correct them.
Shifting from sympathetic to parasympathetic and transpersonal energy healing is something Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo offers in her program. Tapping is a fantastic method to address trauma as well.
“Heartmath helps people shift from stress mode to rest, digest and heal response in the body. It’s a simple process that’s been studied very scientifically from the Institute of Heartmath,” said Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo.
She adds, “It’s a combination of deep, diaphragmatic breathing and appreciation. They measure people before and after. I recommend people do this throughout the day before each meal because it helps to digest.”
First, you can do this method with open or closed eyes. Place your right hand on your heart, left hand on the belly to focus attention. Take in slow, deep breaths. Hold it at the top of the breath and let it go.
“If you feel like taking another breath, push a little bit further and take another long deep breath. Pay attention to your shoulders and neck, allow to soften and relax,” Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo said.
She adds, “Take another long, slow, deep breath. This time as you are breathing in, transport yourself in space and time where you can be appreciative. In that state of relaxation, bliss, and appreciation, you shift and change the chemicals in your body.”
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo explains that at this point, hormones improve, as well as blood pressure, enzymes, immune system, and digestion. Then when you are ready, slowly open your eyes and come back to the present with the intent of bringing that back in with you. And know that anytime within that day, you can go to this place.
Foods that are stressful to the body are foods that amplify our need for detox. Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo reveals that it damages the tissues in our digestive tract.
“Coffee contains acid and caffeine. It revs people up, gets them out of parasympathetic and into sympathetic. You can stress the system. Green tea is better because even if it has caffeine, it’s less than coffee. It has antioxidants that support the liver, and it’s not alkalizing,” said Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo.
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo also says sugar and pesticides are stressful to the system. The same goes for processed food. So, it is best to reduce the toxic load to restore the adrenals to minimize the stress load.
Evaluate where is the stress coming from. Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo strongly recommends doing Heartmath techniques five times a day before meals, before you get out of bed in the morning and before you go to sleep. Recommended duration is 30 seconds to 2 minutes.
“The adrenals need vitamin C more than any part of the body. So eat vitamin C rich foods as well as supplements. The recommended dosage is 1,000 milligrams three times a day to build adrenals,” Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo advised.
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo also recommends her energy elixirs. It can be taken via a cold or hot drink. Either way, there’s always some tea or water as a base. Blend it with some healthy fats like coconut butter or shredded coconut, hemp seeds, and add herbs. She also says medicinal mushrooms help adrenal function as well as lime or orange essential oils.
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo’s website is packed with great resources on how to regain optimal health naturally. Aside from an online shop, you’ll find links to her books, programs, and upcoming live events so do check it out.
“My message is empowerment. Empowered self-care. Learn how your body works and how it’s all put together. And learn about lab testing so that if there are lab tests you need, learn what to ask your doctor for,” advises Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo. “They don’t know about nutrition. You can’t put your health in the hands of someone else. Because you need to take charge. That’s when true health happens.”
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo is passionately committed to transforming exhausted high achievers all over the globe into high energy people who love their lives and live to their full potential.
She founded the Institute of Nutritional Endocrinology so that she could be instrumental in transforming our current broken disease-management system into a true health care system where every practitioner is skilled at finding the root cause of health challenges.
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo specializes in using the wisdom of nature married with modern scientific research restore balance to hormones with a special emphasis on thyroid, adrenal, and insulin imbalances. Her practitioner training programs empower health and nutrition professionals, including health coaches, physicians, nutritionists, nurses, and others to use functional assessments and natural therapeutics to unravel the mystery of their clients’ complex health challenges, so they become known as go-to practitioners for true healing and lasting results.
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo is a licensed Doctor of Chiropractic with Certification in Acupuncture and is a Diplomat of the American Clinical Nutrition Board. She is a Certified Clinical Nutritionist with a Master’s degree in Human Nutrition and has completed a 500-hour Herbal Medicine Certification Program.
Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo has trained certified hundreds of practitioners in the art of using palate-pleasing, whole fresh food as medicine. As a certified HeartMath® provider, Dr. Ritamarie Loscalzo is passionate about using stress transformation techniques to guide clients to reduce the negative impact of stress on their health.
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Post Betrayal Transformation
Betrayal can leave us exhausted, fatigued, anxious because of betrayal from the past. But did you know that post betrayal transformation can help get us on the road to healing? Dr. Debi Silber has a fantastic method and will explain what post betrayal transformation is about, in this episode.
Betrayal is the breaking a spoken or unspoken rule. Dr. Debi Silber says it comes in so many disguises. She experienced a family betrayal but didn’t learn the lesson she was supposed to learn from that experience.
The betrayal from her husband led Dr. Debi Silber to pursue a PH.D. program in transpersonal psychology. Transpersonal psychology is the psychology of transformation and human potential.
“I became obsessed with transformation because I needed to understand how the mind works, why we do what we do and how could I heal from this,” shares Dr. Debi Silber. “Then I did a study on how women experience betrayal, what holds them back and what helps them heal.”
She adds, “We can stay in any stage for years, decades or lifetime. And if we’re going to go from that shock of betrayal to that place of transformation, we go through five proven, predictable stages.”
Discovering Post Betrayal Transformation
Dr. Debi Silber made two more discoveries. Because betrayal felt so different for her. Through the study and her study participants, they coined the term post betrayal transformation.
Post betrayal transformation is the state achieved after this specific healing of betrayal which involves so many other things. In addition to that, there’s grieving and all the things that happened with another trauma.
“And then there was the third discovery. There is a collection of symptoms. These are physical, mental and emotional. It is so common to betrayal and became known as post betrayal syndrome. So, I have a quiz to see what level you are struggling,” Dr. Debi Silber explains.
She adds, “Nobody brings us to our knees like a family member or a partner. When the people you trust the most prove untrustworthy. Who do you trust? It’s so devastating on every level because a primal need is to feel safe.”
Dr. Debi Silber also says that betrayal destroys any sense of safety and security that we ever had. And one of the reasons why it hurts so much is because it is intentional. It’s beyond to what we can hold in our awareness and a shock to the body and mind. But ultimately, Dr. Debi Silber says there’s a way to heal from all of it.
In the study that Dr. Debi Silber conducted, it had fourteen brave women. They contributed to the study because they felt they had learned so much from their experience. And they wanted an opportunity to share it.
The first thing Dr. Debi Silber did was sharing her story with the study participants. So, they know that Dr. Debi Silber has an idea of what they have been through. The stories were so different but the pain the same. And the methodology or ways they chose to handle it was different.
“I assumed that the people who were hit the hardest would grow the least. But the ones who were medicated grew the least. Because they couldn’t deal with it,” reveals Dr. Debi Silber. “The ones with the least amount of consequence to their betrayer grew the least. And the ones who were so afraid to surrender also grew the least. They were also the most physically sick because there wasn’t a price to pay.”
She adds, “When we’re betrayed, we’re protecting our betrayer. Because we don’t want our family to feel uncomfortable or upset them. Here’s where we need the support the most, and we’re the least likely to reach out for it.”
This is also why at the end of Dr. Debi Silber’s six-week program, she offers two different certification programs. One is to be a certified PBT support group host. And the other is a certified PBT practitioner. Dr. Debi Silber says every single woman in the study said she would have benefitted from support.
So, Dr. Debi Silber ended up creating this support group host to benefit women who need support. It is beneficial for the host as well because nothing heals more than when we teach.
Five Stages From Betrayal To Breakthrough
The first is a setup stage. This is what Dr. Debi Silber saw in every single participant in the study. It’s not a blame thing or any. She says if you imagine four legs of a table, the four legs stands for emotional, spiritual, mental and physical aspects.
“Every woman in the study were so busy prioritizing the physical and the mental. It was as if their mind was telling them what their body should do, and they were one big to-do list. Doing a whole lot of doing and not much being, turning up the thinking and turning down the doing,” said Dr. Debi Silber.
She adds, “So imagine the table. If you’re strengthening only two legs of that table, the table is shaky and unstable. If you are neglecting the spiritual and the emotional, you turn down your intuition.”
Stage Two is the breakdown of the body, the mind, and the world’s view. Dr. Debi Silber describes it as having this experience, and it is imprinted on your body and mind. You ignite the stress response, and you have all kinds of physical challenges.
“Your adrenals are freaking out, and you are exhausted. The immune system is down, and your gut is wrecked, and hormones are shifting, weight changes, accelerated aging. And the mind is in a complete state of chaos, confusion and overwhelm,” Dr. Debi Silber enumerated.
And then there’s the breakdown of the world’s view. Dr. Debi Silber this stage is how you see the world. It’s based on your rules. These rules govern on how you manage your life. If the people you trusted have proven untrustworthy and all those rules are shattered, it’s terrifying.
Dr. Debi Silber says if the bottom bottoms out, you would do everything you could. This is where survival instincts emerge. It is the most practical stage.
She also explains that stress response is still engaged because we’re in fear. Then when we know we’re safe, you slowly move into stage four which is adjusting to a new normal.
At this stage, your old normal does not exist anymore. But Dr. Debi Silber assures that it’s going to be okay. And if you believe that it’s going to be okay, you start turning that stress response down. You stop causing destruction. And when you think you can make this work, you now have a little more bandwidth for self-care.
Dr. Debi Silber lists down healing, rebirth and a new worldview as main components of this stage. The body starts to heal. Because now you’re more interested in your self-care.
“You want to nurture yourself a little bit, and you want to move because it feels good. It’s a new mind based on a new set of beliefs. You are constructing based on where you are now. And you are creating this new worldview based on your experience,” Dr. Debi Silber said.
She adds, “When we get to this state of post betrayal transformation, there is so much richness and texture, strength, and wisdom coming from us. And here’s where we are truly unshakeable.”
Dr. Debi Silber says if you feel safe and valued, and you forgive, you’ll feel better for it. You have done something that takes a lot to do. If you do not feel safe and valued, and you forgive, you’re going to feel worse.
“So many people in my study forgave before they were ready. They forgave before it was a new relationship. And things did not change. If you’re looking to forgive and rebuild, there are four levels,” explains Dr. Debi Silber.
Window Of Willingness
The first level of forgiveness is where someone is going from the most likely, and they’re the most receptive to forgiving and release. Dr. Debi Silber says forgiveness is a huge piece when it comes to betrayal.
“It involves an apology, remorse, and restitution. Here is where empathy is high, and our heart is speaking to their heart. We are just connecting and taking full responsibility,” said Dr. Debi Silber.
She adds, “Next level window closes a bit because defensiveness comes up. Here is where we are making excuses. Saying the word because over and over is an indication. You may be willing to forgive, but it doesn’t feel as good as level one.”
As for the next level, Dr. Debi Silber says level three has blame. She calls it the two-sided slap. Here, someone did something and then blame you for it.
The fourth level is flat out denial. Dr. Debi Silber explains that this is somebody taking no responsibility for what they said or what they did. People question the justice, but Dr. Debi Silber believes truth is karma’s job, but closure is up to us.
“When you do the work, there is this strength that comes through because you’re not hiding. You are so secure on who you are and who you have become. With betrayal, you get these triggers all the time,” Dr. Debi Silber said.
She adds, “The person who has caused the hurt, whether they are aware of it or not, their emotions are shame. Shame is the most physically destructive emotion we have. The only way to heal it is to bring light and honor to it.”
But because we don’t want to face it, we do everything we can to numb and avoid the stress. We use food, drugs, alcohol or anything because we are desperately trying to distract ourselves from ourselves. On the other end of it, the other person who has been hurt is walking around with anger and bitterness, resentment and those emotions will take you down.
How Betrayal Shows Up In The Body
Dr. Debi Silber says the most common thing that we see is extreme fatigue. Digestive issues are so common. And so often the adrenals tank. Your immune system gets suppressed, and you end up not being able to fight off things you usually will be ready to fight.
She also reveals that we may even be eating this wonderful diet but not getting the benefit of it because we are not retaining the nutrients as well. Then we go to these wonderful health experts who are incredible in addressing issues, but we fail to see that these are symptoms coming from unhealed betrayal.
Book and Workbook
Dr. Debi Silber’s The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis book and workbook are to heal from any life crisis. The book is purposely very short because Dr. Debi Silber wanted to make sure people read it.
On the other hand, the workbook has lots of experiential exercises. It’s a great combination and a part of the 6-week program. The betrayal book is specifically around the five stages and how to move through them. It encompasses many types of life crisis.
Links to the book are available on Dr. Debi Silber’s website as well as a quiz to help you discover if you are indeed suffering from betrayal issues.
Dr. Debi Silber assures that you can start where you are. And you don’t have to be at a particular stage to start it. She walks you through the five stages with experiential exercises to move you from one stage to the next.
“What I hear from people is that they feel stuck in a certain stage. And that’s what brought them into the program. They may end up spending extra time on those activities until they move,” said Dr. Debi Silber.
Dr. Debi Silber offers two versions of the program. One is the home study which you can do at home, at your own time and pace. It’s so inexpensive, and anybody can access it. The other version is the next level up. It’s a live interactive component that Dr. Debi Silber has in a private Facebook group.
She also adds that to be a certified Post Betrayal Transformation host or practitioner, the six-week program is a pre-requisite. You need to know the five stages and experiential exercises to move you from one stage to the next.
As an added treat to Learn True Health listeners, Dr. Debi Silber is gifting one Betrayal to Breakthrough Home Study Six-Week Program to one lucky listener. It’s worth $297 so do check out the Learn True Health facebook group for details.
Dr. Debi Silber declares that she can only heal to the extent that she knows what you are struggling with. But she also said that sometimes, we do not know things that we do not have access to.
“We have this Bio-Energetix field. And what this does is that it’s like biofeedback. Through a simple scan, your biofield gets compared to what is a perfect biofield. And then it will show any distortions in your field,” Dr. Debi Silber said.
Dr. Debi Silber does it every month for herself, and it’s incredible what it’s able to pick up and what it has done. Ultimately, it shows what you prioritize.
“I understand how painful it is and how much it hurts. But I also know that healing, transformation and the strongest version of you are on the other side of that,” said Dr. Debi Silber.
Dr. Debi Silber, President/CEO of Debi Silber Companies, LLC. And the founder of www.PBTInstitute.com is a recognized health, mindset, empowerment and personal development expert. She’s a speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith, Jack Canfield and many more.
Dr. Debi Silber contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Ladies Home Journal, MSN, Woman’s World and Glamour to name a few.
After researching and conducting a Ph.D. study on how women experience betrayal from a family member or partner, Dr. Debi Silber has discovered a predictable and proven process taking women from betrayal to breakthrough. That process, coupled with 27 years of health, mindset and personal development training and coaching, enabled her to create a multi-pronged approach to help women heal (physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually) from the trauma of betrayal.
Dr. Debi Silber understands the demands of the busy woman because she’s one too. Managing The Silber Center for Personal Growth and Healing along with the PBT Institute™ on Long Island, teaching, speaking, coaching, mentoring and writing, she’s also married to her husband, Adam for 27 years, is the proud mom of Dani, Dylan, Camryn and Cole (22, 21, 18 and 16) and is the proud mom of 6 dogs, Scooby, Nike, Roxy, Gigi, Kylie and Brody.
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